Valerie Wycoff is a Certified Trainer through the international Center for Nonviolent Communication. Born in Nebraska, she now lives in Christchurch, where she offers coaching, counselling and workshops to enhance connection, freedom, and new possibilities.
Her own Nonviolent Communication (AKA Compassionate Communication) journey has been influential in growing her own, and others, capacity for meaningful conversations about difficult topics, including death in particular.
Valerie joins me on episode 13 to tell us more about threshold choirs, which bring songs of comfort to the dying.
We discuss her role in Reflections Threshold Singers, a group which aims to “make kindness audible,” at the bedsides of people in the final stages of their life.
In addition, Valerie has teamed up with Majida Jean McElhaney to deliver a workshop called 'Finding Life Within Death'. And together they've put together another workshop called 'Talking Towards Death'.
Valerie says she has enjoyed singing all her life, particularly alongside others in small groups. Her singing involvements this year have included singing the Verdi Requiem with the Christhchurch Symphony Orchestra Chorus, performing with the Opera Club, and directing practices and singing at bedside with other members of Reflections Threshold Singers (for end of life).
Valerie nominated 'Everything We Do is Sacred' by Alison McKay as a song she would like played at her deathbed, funeral or wake. Unfortunately this song is not on Spotify but you can listen to other songs in our 'Farewell songs' playlist